If you've found your way to this website...
you already know that the crazy teen roller coaster ride is different for each kid.
Welcome to The Confident Parent
Watching our teens navigate their relationships, growing pains, and failures can create underlying anxiety.
We are angrily pushed away as we struggle to help them which leaves us doubting our parenting skills.
Worry our kids are up to no good when they don't communicate with us
Stress they are never going to get into college with their lack of motivation
Want happy, engaging, confident, and loving teens
Want to be a part of their life and share what is going on with them
Want them to stay out of trouble and build their future with our support and guidance
Wonder if we are over or under-parenting and where the right balance is
Want to protect our kids and all they do is push us away
Are frustrated our teens no longer listen to us and don't know how to regain the relationship we used to have with them
This is all addressed in
The 4 Pillars of Parenting Teens
How to put the oxygen mask on first and be calm in a crisis
Learn how to listen, when to speak, and what to say so they hear you
Understand what motivates them and how to help them find it
Letting Go & Staying Close
Learn how to nurture a close and loving relationship that lasts a life-time
Join the upcoming Webinar featuring Pillar 1
Transform worry, anxiety, and stress
into calm-headed, peaceful, and chillaxed parenting
You will learn
How to manage your emotions and reactions and not get swept up in theirs
To calm the space between you and exemplify this strength for your teen
To repair and create the relationship you want to have with them
What teen behavior triggers you and how to catch yourself before things get ugly
To understand why what your teen does rubs you the wrong way and avoid escalating miscommunication to fighting, yelling, and slamming of doors
No one told me my 13-year-old was...
going to share on FB which base they'd been to and that I would have to fight with them to take the post down or the pain and loss I would feel when my son at 14 stopped talking to me, and roll his eyes at everything I said. Every parent's journey has its challenges, and with four kids we had many!
We all feel the acute pain of the loss of our younger child as we enter the teen phase of life, and even more, we worry about what struggles are around the corner and how we will manage today's reality which are so much different than ours. What our kids will face like bullying, drugs, mental health, eating disorders, sex, peer pressure, and the evil side of the internet keep us up at night.
My strategy was to be "a cool Mom"...
I would give in to the kids so I wouldn't have to say no. Avoiding disagreeing with them, even when my gut was telling me I should stand firm. The desire to have the relationship I wanted with them clouded my parental wisdom to protect them.
I struggled with the shame
of not knowing how to handle the teen years and I had no idea that help existed, or that I even needed help! It wasn't until they were in their early twenties and late teens that I came across life coaching and found the tools that helped me find peace, ease, and flow with each one of their unique ways.
The 4 Pillars of Parenting Teens work together and cover the major struggles parents face while raising their kids.
First parents need to understand what's causing their stress, anxiety, and worry.
Once this is understood it's easier to communicate and hear what your teens are saying, and have them hear you and what you want them to know.
Teens aren't the easiest humans to motivate, and with stress under control and the lines of communication open, parents are ready to help teens self-motivate.
Lastly, we want them to be independent and responsible. The only way to do this is to let go without mixed messages.
The Skills In This Pillar WORK!
Thousands of people will tell you that this program has worked for them, and our Confident Parent clients will attest that they have improved their relationships because of the Self Management Pillar.
This Pillar will eliminate your stress, deflates others' stress, and opens up the space to have conversations and communicate openly and honestly with each other,
which is the next Parenting Teen Pillar!
Sign Up Here for the Self Management Webinar
and learn how to address your unreasonable, disconnected, mute teen from a calm and centered mindset.
so you will finally be able to positively engage with your teen and not be triggered by their negative, rude and disrespectful response.
"As a single mother, raising an adolescent, I can now stay calm when my son flips his lid, avoid activating my saboteurs, eliminate opportunities for emotional escalation, and provides my son with better self-regulation models that he might choose to mimic eventually in his life."
-J V-Howard, Montreal QC
"Avery can listen to one's deeper self with immense empathy and compassion. I learned some long-lasting techniques that will continue to help me progress in life on a higher emotional level. Her insights and genuine kindness and concern for success are quite evident. I highly recommend her as a coach."
-Katie, Marblehead MA
Pillar 1 will cover:
The root of your stress, anxiety, and worry
How they affect your parenting
How to react with intention
Tools that will calm you down
Instill new responses to challenges
Avery works with parents to build stronger connections and relationships with their teenagers who are trying to push them away. Each teen has unique struggles and versions of “ I hate you mom, but you aren’t allowed to abandon me!” The pushback teens exert is an age-old process they go through as they strive to become independent.
Parents worry about keeping their kids safe from today's challenges they never faced, such as questions around identity, mental health, depression, social media distractions, college prep stress, Covid, and online learning.
Working with Avery, parents begin to understand what triggers their worry, stress, and negative reactions when their teens reject them. They learn how to shift to positive perspectives and solidify strong, lifelong bonds.