When I went to college in the mid-eighties, there was a double standard. My brother could stay out all night, but even though I was eighteen, I could not, and boyfriends had to leave my house by 11 pm. I never even imagined challenging my parents about this unspoken rule, I just abided by it. Now it's my turn being the parent to young adults, and I don't want to be like my parents, but I do still struggle with boundaries and ground rules for them and me. Tinder dates are not invited to the house, text me if you are not coming home for the night, and no loud music or loud friends past midnight.
-What values are most important to you?
-What boundaries do you need?
-What boundaries does your adult child need?
-How can you design an alliance to live by in your house together?
Do you want to create boundaries and ground
rules with your adult child?